Seriouslyourself
Don't you love it when you talk with a trusted friend and they help you get clearer about who you are and what you believe? Seriouslyourself is a podcast that invites you to delve a little deeper into those stuck and confused places in life. Ingrid Helander brings her decades of experience as a family therapist and author to your everyday questions, problems, and wonderings. With humor & genuine conversation, Ingrid's lighthearted and dedicated style invites her guests and listeners to question and wonder with genuine curiosity. By uniting what she knows about therapy, psychology & human experience with inspiration and encouragement, you leave feeling refreshed and ready to find yourself in this life. Why waste life's precious moments when you can be seriously yourself?
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Really, Don't Just Let It Go!
October 21, 2022 • 15 MIN
How can you let go of a feeling you've never really held? Have you ever thought to yourself, "I've heard so many people say this but I don't know how to do it"? In this week's podcast we go over how to do just that.
One Big Relationship
October 20, 2022 • 17 MIN
When most of us think of relationships, we automatically think of romantic partners. We are in so many relationships that go way beyond that as well. We're all engaged in a whole bundle of relationships, from romance and family to our relationship with our finances. So it’s super important to take note of… how am I relating to this person/place/ or thing? In this podcast we go through 4 ways to avoid miscommunication and enhance your relationships.
Disappointment
October 13, 2022 • 16 MIN
Disappointment is a tough thing to manage, but you can do it. This week we explore how to view your disappointment through a lens of care and how to befriend it.
Emotion Without Negotiation
October 6, 2022 • 16 MIN
How can we experience and integrate our emotional parts if we're constantly second-guessing their right to exist? This is a very sneaky self sabotaging habit of denying, minimizing, or invalidating our strong or tender feelings. In this episode we bring into light how that part of you is just trying to help - but sadly is making things worse.
Tiny, Panicky Parts
September 29, 2022 • 16 MIN
Sometimes, small parts of us rebel when we're trying to embrace the positive. What are those parts trying to tell us? Sometimes when we feel two polarizing truths (happiness & depression/panic) we can feel inauthentic. In this podcast, we learn how to fully feel our positive moments without avoiding the voice of anxiety that can knock on the door when we are feeling good.
The Wisdom of YOU
September 22, 2022 • 14 MIN
Do you think of yourself as wise? I do, and I think you should, too! We often confuse wisdom with related words like knowledge, intelligence, or understanding. But wisdom is making sense of and using the knowledge and understanding.
Busy? Listen Up!
September 15, 2022 • 17 MIN
Feeling busy is a message from your body and heart. What are they trying to tell you? We are discussing 4 possible reasons why "I'm so busy" keeps showing up for you, and they are usually under the surface and hidden. Let's excavate!
What's Your Addiction?
September 8, 2022 • 16 MIN
Let's think about the things we need - or THINK we need - to help us avoid discomfort. Sometimes we avoid discomfort at all costs and pursue comfort to our own detriment. How do we compassionately move towards comfort and safety without reaching for something damaging?
The Gift of the Grasshopper
September 1, 2022 • 16 MIN
This week, an invitation to experience the surprising joys of our surroundings. What have you learned from your time when you're not really trying to make anything happen. I find that often that creative open spaces where the best ideas inspirations comforts come from.
Heartache & Other Information
August 25, 2022 • 14 MIN
Our hearts are a sophisticated and magnificent part of our minds. They hold so much information if we are quiet enough, and brave enough, to listen. And if your curiosity takes you further, your heart might let you know something about yourself - longings, constraints, needs, memories and more.
Feeling Invisible?
August 18, 2022 • 15 MIN
The things that make you feel most vulnerable, that you consider to be shortcomings, can be an enormous source of power and gift to the world. If you're wanting to start a business, new project, and or just be more authentically yourself everyday...this is for you!
Not Just An Emotion!
August 11, 2022 • 13 MIN
We're often told to trust our thoughts more than our emotions. But emotions are a rich source of information about how the world is affecting us. Have you considered the intelligence of your emotions and the compass of clarity that they offer?
Choosing Your Choices
August 4, 2022 • 15 MIN
It can take a lot of unlearning to remember that we have choices, even in a world that seems determined to undermine our agency. So what do you want a choice about today? What do you not realize you have a choice about today? What would be thrilling? What would be authentic... Invigorating, true for you?
Control Freak, Out!
July 26, 2022 • 17 MIN
Do you notice, sometimes, parts within you that are out of control? Can you take a moment even now and breathe and get really curious about them? When does it happen?And what do you hear yourself say inside and how do you feel towards that? Do you feel like you always need to be on, calling every shot? What are your calculated means of knowing I am safe and sound? Let's explore that this episode.
No Laughing Matter?
July 21, 2022 • 12 MIN
The ability to look at ourselves with humor lets us see our lives from a greater perspective. We can gain ease, we can find joy. We can delight! Now imagine the gifts that could come into your life because of this little shift in perception.
Freedom's Inside Job
July 14, 2022 • 15 MIN
It's hard to have freedom when you have to edit every single thought. This week on the Seriouslyourself podcast we explore an antidote to perfectionism: what true inner and relational freedom feels like and what conditions may have birthed our inhibition & perfectionism. And how to move forward. Please go check out this one! You're not going to want to miss it!
Defying Age and Other Lies
July 7, 2022 • 18 MIN
Aging is a natural part of life. Why do we spend such enormous time, energy, and money fighting it? Let's flip the script! Aging is something we GET to do if we live!
Getting Heated
June 30, 2022 • 16 MIN
Let's take a moment to consider the many overlooked nuances of anger. It is not meant to be an action. It is meant to be a signal in my opinion. Yeah. So what is your anger signaling to you today in the past? When do you feel angry and why does it mean something to you and what you want to do with that? I think it could be something wonderful and I'm here for it.
Yes, Yes, Yes! (Or not...)
June 23, 2022 • 16 MIN
What would it take for you to be all in to say YES! to yourself? Do you want to know some practical yet magical steps that you can take towards creating your dreams? This week we go into honing your intuition to bring this to fruition.
Whoa, Whoa, Whoa
June 16, 2022 • 14 MIN
The key to deeper intimacy is communication. This podcast lays out clear steps to create the intimacy you truly yearn for. The real magic happens when we slow all the way down, relax our nervous systems, get present, and allow the truth to emerge. From this centered place, we can actively listen and feel truly heard. Can’t wait for you to get a taste of magic this week! When we are in the present moment, the truth emerges.
Question It All!
June 9, 2022 • 16 MIN
It can be tough to examine our long-held assumptions and beliefs, but the benefits are enormous! We are raised with old stories, old truths, things that don't always fit, or that aren't even true. This episode we compassionately turn towards questioning and updating outdated belief systems.
Good Regrets
June 2, 2022 • 12 MIN
It's natural to regret times spent struggling with sadness or depression. If this sounds familiar, it's okay. It's a normal part of feeling better. But did you ever consider that that's a great thing to have happened to you, it will be a beautiful, complete part of your growth and healing process. This helps you keep from owning an identity of suffering of regrets all the time.
Shift Happens! Small Changes & Why They're Often Best
May 26, 2022 • 15 MIN
Small shifts can often be more effective than big, drastic changes. This is what actually moves the dial towards the change that you are really wanting. I've learned what is most essential is making these tiny little changes. Things that seem like no big deal to make. But it can make all the difference in your body, in your psyche in your day, in your week and how you feel about your life.
I Don't Wanna!!!
May 19, 2022 • 13 MIN
Lots of different parts of us have been trying really hard recently. Quarantining - new transitions - parenting - working - socializing - pleasing. What can you learn about yourself when those parts draw a line?
Wasted Offerings and Slimy Strawberries
May 12, 2022 • 14 MIN
What parts of ourselves are we holding back, and why? What gift excites you to give that you are hiding away? And why? This week on Seriouslyourself, we explore inspiration, your gifts, and the underlying beliefs to why you may hold back on your precious offerings to the world.
Balance, Brain, and Body
May 5, 2022 • 13 MIN
Your brain is important, but it's not the whole you! Sometimes certain parts can take over and run the show. But they don't have too. This week we are exploring how to come back to your central energy.
A Little Skill When You're Unclear
April 28, 2022 • 15 MIN
This week I'm offering what my clients call "A Real Gamechanger". When you're feeling upset or anxious, do you notice how you hear every negative message in your head? "She doesn't really like me." "I'm being ridiculous." "No one really cares." (Insert yours here...). This week on Episode 14 of Seriouslyourself, we talk about ...The Art of Zooming Out!
When Your Depression Holds On Too Tightly
April 21, 2022 • 19 MIN
The embrace of depression can seem overwhelming, but your other parts need attention, too. Here's a new way to view those mildly depressing feelings that can take you down (and into deeper depression). Seriouslyourself this week notices there are other parts too - and helps you find even small light spots within.
Stressed Out Scripts: A Love Letter
April 14, 2022 • 16 MIN
What are the familiar stories your mind tells itself about stress, and what are they trying to do for you? How can you take a step back, really listen, and realize that maybe it isn't really about what's going on in the outside world.
It's a Man's World. Might As Well Get Used to It?
April 7, 2022 • 17 MIN
Anyone who limits us from being our full selves does a wrong, not just to an individual, but to all of us. What did you learn from your parents, teachers, authority figures, role models as a kid that was limiting to you?
Venting, Raging, Ruminating, and How to Get It Out
March 31, 2022 • 19 MIN
Sometimes, when we have a strong persistent feeling, we just need to get it out! We just need to be heard! Let's talk about how to do it productively.
How Can You Trust?
March 24, 2022 • 16 MIN
In a world that's predictably unpredictable, trust in anything starts with trusting yourself.
Comparison: The Big Childhood lie
March 17, 2022 • 14 MIN
We all compare ourselves to others, and it starts earlier than you might realize. But does it do anything to help us?
Crystal Clarity
March 10, 2022 • 15 MIN
Being crystal clear about yourself starts with identifying your patterns. It feels so good to stop doubting and fighting every little thing about yourself. This episode, I talk about how to discover what you, for certain, know is true about you. and to get clear about all of the incredible parts of who you are.
Problem Solving and the Pressure of Perfectionism
March 3, 2022 • 13 MIN
Sometimes, the routines and rules we make to help us solve problems can turn into problems of their own! So how do we come back into balance with structure and spontaneity, when anxious about doing things perfectly all the time?
When You Want A Boundary
February 24, 2022 • 18 MIN
Boundaries are necessary and helpful, but there are some vital things to think about when you're setting them. So this episode, we distinguish when you know you are coming from a healthy, regulated state or fired up response based on your past. And how to pick those pieces apart and find your grounded and clear boundary.
You're Not In Trouble
February 17, 2022 • 9 MIN
What to do when your younger parts keep you from speaking up because they're worried about getting in trouble. Do you immediately assume, or take on responsibility for things that don't belong to you? This is the episode for you! In this week's podcast, we discuss how to work with this younger part and how to empower your voice.
What to Do After Biting Your Tongue
February 10, 2022 • 13 MIN
Today we're talking about what you can do AFTER you realize you've bitten your tongue, (held back what you felt or wanted to say.) Biting your tongue can be a great opportunity to gain some much-needed insight. Remember when you do it - it's not done. It's only Step 1!
Feelings That Kill You
February 3, 2022 • 13 MIN
Some feelings are so intense they feel life-threatening. Unfortunately, this added fear, of course, makes the whole situation feel worse! So how do we be with all that is arising and stay curious in these times?
Overthinking
January 27, 2022 • 13 MIN
Do you consider yourself an "Overthinker?" Lots of us do. But what is overthinking, really? And is it truly bad for you or what? In this episode, we'll re-imagine overthinking - what are its origins? Why do some people feel plagued by it? When does it become a problem?
Welcome to Seriouslyourself!
January 23, 2022 • 4 MIN
Thank you for tuning in to Seriouslyourself, the podcast! Meet your host, Ingrid Helander, who brings her decades of experience as a family therapist and author to your everyday questions, problems, and wonderings. Learn more about her approach, which encourages you to question and wonder with genuine curiosity. Subscribe to Seriouslyourself, and start your personal journey toward living seriously yourself!
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