Playing the Victim as a Man
November 17, 2021
Many men play the victim in their life and they don't even realize it! They don't sit around and whine (well, almost all of them don't....) but they are playing the victim in different ways in their life. Let's look at the 3 reasons that men play the victim and how they do it.
We are living in a society where many men are playing the victim and it is hurting us
Why do men play the victim?
Inward Victim
- When you act as an inward victim, you don't necessarily act it out but it comes across with your inner voices
- This type of thinking can become a mindset that keeps you passive as a man
- Sometimes others may see these types of people as not motivated or lazy, but, the truth is they are inwardly victimizing themselves
- Many men who live with an inward victim mentality live in a reactionary focus
- This feels safe to many men and they flow in it naturally, but the problem is they are abdicating their ability to lead
Inward Journey
- Men can often fall victim to the victim mentality when they haven't gone on the inward journey
- A self-aware man goes on the inward journey and figures out his own thoughts and feelings
- Men who have clarity about their identity don't play the victim
- When a man needs affirmation, he can be led around and manipulated
- When a man is secure in himself, he doesn't respond to manipulation
Inward Realities
- The majority of men who play the victim don't understand their own inward realities
- As men, we shouldn't expect ourselves to be good at everything or to like everything
- You really aren't competing with anyone else, you are competing with yourself
- When guys try to be someone they aren't and fail, they often fall into a victim mentality
- When a man recognizes his own strengths and weaknesses, he is a much wiser and more powerful man
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