In this episode we talk about
- sitting on a feeling, thought or experience that you wish you had shared with the person affected
- the discomfort that this unfinished business causes
- the idea of giving a lot of attention to others and not getting back from the seeds we sow
- the notion that we choose our partner (unconsciously) to get what we didn't get earlier in life
- the need to complete a cycle in our experiencing
- not talking about things that bother or hurt us
- the impact of not talking about the things that trouble us
- anxiety that gets in the way; our fears that the other person may not like what we say and therefore not love us anymore
- the blame that we attach to others when they don't say the right things
- sulking as unfinished business escalating conflict
- the consequences of not having had the conversation that we need over the years
- ways of expressing your frustrations, worries, fears, hurt in a safe way, e.g. 'I feel' statements, talking at the right time when there is capacity or focusing on one item of discontent rather than too many
- taking responsibility for your own feelings
- the choices we make to take on 'negative' emotions
- building more understanding for your partner's intention - they may not always be as bad as you think
- preparing for having a communication that might feel challenging
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