Dealing with Social Anxiety
January 3, 2023
Dealing with Social Anxiety. Since the pandemic studies suggest that between 25-40% of people are feeling some form of social anxiety. If you're single and want to date, in a relationship, and need to have that tough conversation, deserve that raise you didn't get last year, well, if you're feeling some form of social anxiety do you think you'll have much luck? In this episode, David Dubé shares some insights on how to deal with social anxiety.
Studies suggest that since the pandemic between 25-40% of people feel social anxiety of some sort.
Relationships are everything, if we're to ask for the date, make the sale, have a difficult conversation with our partner, ask for the raise we want and deserve, etc we're going to have to deal with our social anxiety.
So, how do we deal with Social Anxiety?
Let's first talk about the critic that lives inside of our heads. I recall a time in 2021 when I went out with a friend to meet up with some other friends, one of which I hadn't met before. After the interaction, I began having a conversation with myself about how our interaction went and how I felt I missed some good opportunities, the kinds I wouldn't have missed had I been having more social interactions.
Now, a lot of individuals would continue to berate themselves in their heads about the interactions but that's where my years of experience paid off for me and what I want you to get out of this. Instead of beating yourself up any more than you already have, grab a pen and paper and write down your thoughts on your social interaction. Write everything about the interaction you didn't like and what you could have done differently, then write down what you will do differently next time. Now you have a template of how you want to change your social interactions.
Okay, now, let's talk about how amazing you already are, how amazing we as humans are. We're so adaptable that we've become accustomed to our "new norm" of being socially separated. However, we need to reverse that and become more adept at being social again, and to do that we can plan out some of our future interactions. There are several ways we can do this in a fun and safe way; pick a friend whom you have fun with but also who's fun for others to interact with, then plan out some things you can do that are semi-social like golf, bowling, mini-golf, etc. These are interactions where you and a friend can go do where if you want to interact with others you can and if you just want to stick with your partner, you're able to.
Lastly, let's remove the label "social anxiety" you're not feeling anxious you're just feeling uncomfortable. If you're invited to a party are you actually "anxious" or are you just feeling a bunch of different emotions about the party? Anxiousness can come from the feeling of a bunch of emotions we just haven't broken down into their individual feelings. So, think of what are all the feelings you're feeling around the "event". This way you're able to confront each emotion on its own.
If this was helpful, rate our podcast! Join our private community at https://relationships-first.com and if you'd like to work with me, you can also set an appointment on that site.
To find out more and work with David Dubé go to https://daviddube.com
Okay, now, let's talk about how amazing you already are, how amazing we as humans are. We're so adaptable that we've become accustomed to our "new norm" of being socially separated. However, we need to reverse that and become more adept at being social again, and to do that we can plan out some of our future interactions. There are several ways we can do this in a fun and safe way; pick a friend whom you have fun with but also who's fun for others to interact with, then plan out some things you can do that are semi-social like golf, bowling, mini-golf, etc. These are interactions where you and a friend can go do where if you want to interact with others you can and if you just want to stick with your partner, you're able to.
Lastly, let's remove the label "social anxiety" you're not feeling anxious you're just feeling uncomfortable. If you're invited to a party are you actually "anxious" or are you just feeling a bunch of different emotions about the party? Anxiousness can come from the feeling of a bunch of emotions we just haven't broken down into their individual feelings. So, think of what are all the feelings you're feeling around the "event". This way you're able to confront each emotion on its own.
If this was helpful, rate our podcast! Join our private community at https://relationships-first.com and if you'd like to work with me, you can also set an appointment on that site.
To find out more and work with David Dubé go to https://daviddube.com