There Is NO There!

What if I told you, there is no “there”?

Wherever you are trying to go or whatever you are trying to achieve in life, doesn’t exist!

One thing I noticed about American’s is that we are all trying to get somewhere

We have a picture of what life is supposed to be or should be, and we are striving to get there!

Once we get there, we can start, work, or focus on the things we have been avoiding.

Or that’s when we can start enjoying life or taking care of our health.

For some, that picture means…

- Graduating college

- Finding a life partner

- Having kids

- Accumulating x amount in the bank

- Retiring

We all have this ideal “image”

Of where we are not at

But once we get there…

We will have made it, people will like and respect us, and we will have the motivation and courage to go after the things that matter.

I hate to break it to you, but there is no “there.”

Whatever ideal picture you are seeking, doesn’t exist.

Actually, the picture does exist, and you can in fact achieve it.

However, what you are expecting to happen when you do achieve it, likely won’t.

This realization took hold early on in my travels

When I embarked on a trek to see the tallest waterfall in the world, Angel Falls.

In our party, there was a small group of friends from Poland with whom I was sharing my story and journey of healing.

One of the guys really resonated with it because he had been on his own journey.

And he said, you know Kam, what I noticed when you get on a path like this, is that it is a path that has no end.

When I heard that, it hit me like a ton of bricks.

It was something I had never heard before, and really never heard again, but for some reason, I knew in my core that it was true.

In fact, I believe the purpose of my long trek into Angel Falls was to meet this guy to hear that.

That’s because prior to that, I thought there was a “there”

I thought and was desperately seeking some “there” to get to.

To achieve a certain healing, to hit this milestone, and that would be it.

Once I reached this milestone, I would have made it, life would be great, and the struggle would be over.

Boy was I wrong, and if it weren’t for him, I would be chasing this “there” that didn’t exist.

In fact, when you do get “there,” that’s when the real work starts

That’s when you confront the real challenges, and have to face yourself.

If you have been struggling to achieve that picture, it’s likely because your mind is resisting the struggles that would come once you get there.

Wherever you are trying to go, will present a new set of challenges and choices, so your mind prevents you from getting there to avoid dealing with them.

The other thing that happens is that once you do get there, you find other theres to chase

“Well once this thing is done, once I have that, once I get over this, I will start”

You will not feel ready at this there, and think you will feel ready at the next there…

And the one after that.

But you never do!

Like I said, there is no “there”

It doesn’t exist, it never did.

It’s a made up fantasy created to make fantasies sound more fantastical.

So, don’t wait until you get “there” to start what you have been avoiding.

Whatever you are avoiding or resisting, you need to start now.