Why is it that some people continue to fall deeper in love with their spouse and have a powerful connection with their kids, while others find themselves growing more distant in their most important relationships? How is it that some people always seem to have an abundance of energy and living a fascinating life full of contribution and meaning? Why are some people able to quickly grow their businesses or advance their careers, while others are working hard but never really making a forward progress they know they are capable of? A lot of people find themselves drifting through life, swept up in the daily routine they never imagined living. Life can be stressful and fast. Sometimes when your business begins to succeed your personal life falls apart, and vice versa. Stop feeling overwhelmed, accomplish what matters most, and realize your potential. There is no better time than now to set the stage for your success. Discover how you can approach life and choose your destination. Learn how finding your why and true purpose and calling can make this year your best year ever.
Welcome to “DESIGN YOUR LIFE”
Welcome to this Podcast “Design Your Life: A proven system to live fully and finally achieve your Best Year Ever”. I am going to help you get more productive, set awesome goals and achieve the life of your dreams.
Hi I am Dr Sundardas D Annamalay, CEO of the NTC Alliance Group of Companies, author of “Life by Design” and founder of "The Freedom Formula - Mastering, Energy, Money and Leverage in 9 Steps". I am a Naturopathic Physician and professor of Natural Medicine practicing in Singapore. I also mentor coaches, trainers and experts building their expert businesses.
Why is it that some people continue to fall deeper and deeper in love with their spouse and have a powerful connection with their kids while others find themselves growing more and more distant in their most important relationships?
And how is it that some people always seem to have an abundance of energy, always travelling to beautiful places and living a fascinating life full of contribution and meaning. They are busy learning and teaching.
Why are some people able to quickly grow their business or advance their careers while others are working hard but never really making a forward progress they know they are capable of?
Others are stuck in an endless loop of complaining and blaming because they find themself drifting through life. Swept up in a daily routine they never imagined living.
I am about to show you how, if you want, you can make this next year your best year ever.
I have created multiple businesses. Written multiple Amazon best-sellers, won three entrepreneurship awards in a row. To date I have seen upwards to 15, 000 people individually from 30 countries. Our clients include some of the richest people in South East Asia and Asian Royalty. I have helped generate $25 million in sales for companies that I have consulted for in the area of Health and Wellness.
Before I outline the core foundational elements of this process, it’s important to know where this came from. The seeds of this were planted many, many years ago.
For the first 6 months of my life they fed me through my nose through a feeding tube .The surgeries started within 6 months. The surgeries and drugs continued. At 6 years of age, I was speech handicapped, hearing handicapped and right lobe brain damaged.
I am an Aspergers. So I didn’t really understand emotions and was blind to the finer nuances of emotion. I only knew that I could depend on my mother to be reliable and do what needed to be done.
Then the unthinkable occurred. It was towards the middle of my 13th year that my mum fell ill with cancer.
Mother was admitted to General hospital about 6 months later after the initial cancer diagnosis as the cancer spread.
I saw my mother an intelligent self controlled human being deteriorating before my eyes. That experience created a determination that I would do something to make a difference. I was 14 when mother died. I became quite depressed almost suicidal.
I had to decide if I was in control of my life or if I was just a helpless log in the torrent of life. Instead I came to the conclusion that there was an underlying pattern.
I decided I was going to fix myself. I was going to find the most effective patterns and programs. I was going to learn how to read people even if I could not feel emotions. I was going to train my body even if I had two left feet. I was going to find the cure for cancer.
The one advantage autistics have is focus and pattern recognition. I created a mathematical model by 15 to read body language. I started retraining my brain with mathematics, language and martial arts. I started looking for the fastest most effective ways to take in information, process it and create patterns I could use.
But I was not only crushed I was also determined. And when it all came to it I made a silent vow in my heart I said “I will never depend on anyone else.” I didn’t realise is at that time but that vow became the driving force of my life.
And here is the truth, I overcorrected, I way overcorrected. It seems that the next morning I cut my hair, put on a suit and got a job. I wanted control because it felt like everything in my life is suddenly out of control.
Fast forward 10 years later. The 14 year old autistic with speech and hearing disabilities and brain damage to his right lobe with two left feet was now a 24 year old with a Physics degree with superior reflexes and had represented the university in dance.
I started my own business after I completed my training as a naturopathic physician. I was full of myself, but I was also in control, and there was a broken part of me that needed that.
Then I got married. I was working on my postgraduate degrees, running my business and looking after my step son.
Within the next six years I was on a fast track program in Natural Medicine and became the youngest professor in Natural Medicine in my college.
However remember I am autistic so I still did not really socialize or get along with people outside work. My attitude was if you found me and I can help you great. But I am not going to go out of my way to see if I could be of service.
Along the way as I was training and looking for the cure for cancer. I was still hung up over how my mum died. Finally when I was doing post graduate work with Dr Thomas Rau who runs the Paracelsus Clinic in Switzerland, I realized that I should focus on preventing cancer. Preventing the seeds that led to chronic dis-ease. At that realization, its like this weight fell off my shoulders. I was about 36 at that point.
Life got stressful and fast .Providing for a family and trying to build a business was tough. I got wrapped up in my drive to succeed and soon I found the very thing I didn’t want to have happened to me was happening.
Now I was the person checking out. Well it caused challenges to my family. My wife and I went through marital challenges. Eventually as the business began to succeed, my marriage fell apart. This happens very often to compulsive people.
Well up to that point my life demonstrated two unhelpful ways of approaching life. I call the first one “Coasting along”. That was how my father approached life. He was swept up in the current. Coasting along, not choosing his destination but ending up in a place he never would have chosen if he had consciously been aware of it. And that’s exactly how I had decided I was never going to live my life.
Unfortunately, that’s how a lot of people approach life. They are just operating automatically. They are caught up in life’s distractions. They are not thinking about where they might be going, and before long they end up at a destination they would not have chosen if they were conscious of what they were choosing. It might be a health crisis, or a martial crisis, or maybe a business failure or a career upset, but they end up in a destination far from what they thought they were going.
Fast forward a few more years. When I was about 40, I got separated from my wife, I lived out the life of the young man I had never been. Just as I found the woman of my dreams, a devastating life threatening infection struck.
Finally as I lay dying, freezing in the cold of the ICU, I could finally feel all the meaning, love, joy and support that had been all around me but my autistic brain could never comprehend until that magical moment in time. I found my true purpose and life calling.
I wanted to make sure others did not have to go through the journey and pain I went through to find meaning and purpose in their lives. I felt connected in a way I had never been before.
I took almost 5 years to recover, and in that time my struggling clinical practice boomed and I won multiple business awards. Five years later, I was working on my schedule for the forthcoming year and realised I was grossly over overcommitted again. I had been living “The Compulsive Life”.
I realised that all my patients and clients had the same issue I had in a hundred different ways. They lost track of what truly mattered in their lives.
I realised that until people find their ‘Why’ they don’t really live. They merely exist, go through the motions of life. At that point I made a commitment to focusing on my core priority.
Suddenly I had time to exercise daily, lose all the extra weight, go on movie dates with my wife monthly instead of biannually. Plus our companies became more profitable and I added more offerings. And it really comes down to making that one single core commitment instead of being spread in a thousand different directions. This total commitment to that core priority is what I teach in my program “The Freedom Formula: Mastering Time, Energy and Leverage in 9 Steps”.
I have spoken in more than 10 countries round the world and been on stage with keynote speakers. All this apart from creating a medical screening software system as well as publishing scientific papers and being a professor. However all this is not enough to reach those who could benefit from my life experiences.
So I realised if I wanted to get my message of finding the core priority in your life out to more people I needed to do it differently. I could only see so many people in my clinic, seminar programs or other talks I did. Most people will never be able to fly down and work with me one on one like my clients. I still want to do what I can to make sure that at least you have the choice living your life differently.
So every podcast I will be sharing what my private one on one client’s get when they work with me. One of my clients flew a family down in her private jet to work with me for one week. Others book their slots 6 months in advance. You won’t have to do any of that. Just tune in to the “Life by Design” podcast.
Do yourself a huge favour. Take a piece of paper right now.
“Write down the one thing that stops you from designing your life”
Write this down, keep it in an envelope date it and look at it in 90 days time.
The focus of this podcast is to reveal how you can stop feeling overwhelmed, accomplish what matters most and finally realize your potential. And there is no better time than now to set the stage for your success over the next 12 months.
The last thing I want is for you to think that just by writing down your goals on a napkin in a New Year’s Eve party or announcing your resolutions on Facebook at the beginning of the year you’ll magically accomplish big goals. You and I both know that thinking is flawed and the statistics prove it.
DID YOU KNOW THAT: 25%of people abandon their New Year’s resolutions after just one week? 60% give up within 6 months. It’s the same reason the average person makes the same New Year’s resolution, get this, 10 separate times without success.
I am not here to give you false hope. I am here to share with you a proven system of success. To take you by the hand and lead you to accomplishing your life goals in order to live the life of your dreams.
v 2 million marriages in USA, 1 million divorces
v 95% of divorces caused by a “lack of communication”
v Average person spends less than 2 minutes with partner
v Average working person spends less than 30 seconds with their children.
v Many people will spend more time on choosing a dress or a car or planning for a holiday
In 2014 there were 2.5 million deaths in the US.* 75%* are from causes that
The statistics about the income levels people retire at is not encouraging.
• 1 percent are wealthy
• 4 percent are financially fit
• 5 percent are still working
• 28 percent are dead
• 62 percent are flat broke
I really don’t want you to become another statistic like I read in the papers or I get interviewed about or a caller on one of my television programs. I want you to have a different trajectory to your life.
One lucky listener that posts a review on iTunes will win a private confidential consultation and coaching with me on discovering your soul’s purpose. I will lead you on a personal journey to discover your unique mind-body psychosomatic map of your life. You will get a detailed report and a personal 45 minute consultation with me that is worth thousands.
On this podcast I’m going to help you design a life that works. So you are able to say yes to the things that matter and eliminate everything else that slows you down. The more clear you can be about how to organize your daily life to support your bigger vision, the more you’ll step into your true potential, stay on track and accomplish all that you want and deserve. Are you ready to make that happen?
It could mean reconnecting or reviving a meaningful relationship that’s lost its spark or now feels distant. It could also mean getting into the best shape of your life physically, mentally and emotionally. That could mean reaching new levels financially in your business or making major advancements in your career.
You know deep down that there is this enormous potential below the surface of your life but there is a barrier, blockade, blind spot that keeps getting in the way, feel free to reach out to me to ask your questions at AskDrSun.com.
Your life is a gift. Design it. Do what matters and join me each week as we get closer to designing the life of your dreams.
I am Dr Sun. Join me next week on Design Your Life.