Are Soul Mates A Real Thing?
June 18, 2021
I regularly hear people use the term "Soul Mate" or "The One" or they are looking for the perfect partner. I want to set you straight on this one.
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Hi, it's Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track.
Welcome back to the latest episode. In this one, I want to talk to you about something that a lot of people seem to have a belief about and that is that there is a 'soul mate', that there's a, 'the one' or the perfect person for them. I want to set you straight on this. There is no such thing.
If there was such a thing, the odds against it happening for one person, let alone millions is just astronomically huge. So if you think about the odds that someone in the world was your soul mate, let's just pretend someone was your soul mate. If it was a real thing, that person, what would be the odds of them living in the same country as you? There's something like 217 countries. So we're already at one in 217 factor in that that they live in the same state of the same country as you.
Well, let's assume there's ten states in your country that's already observed 2,170 to 1. But, it could actually to be a hell of a lot more because if you've got more than 10 states in every country. So we're already well into the thousands now. Imagine that in that state, they're in the same city as you and not only in the same city as you, they happen to go out on the same night as you to the exact same venue as you to run into you so that you can have this relationship with 'the one' or your 'soul mate'.
The odds are just so astronomically huge that even for one person for that to happen would just be ridiculously unlikely and then make that for millions of people. Absolutely impossible. Absolutely impossible. The problem is that due to rom-coms, romantic movies, a lot of the ways that relationships are portrayed in movies and books and magazines, they're portrayed as being this perfect thing, like you meet someone and suddenly everything's fine.
Well that might be good in the movies, however, it doesn't happen in real life. In real life. People have things that go on. They have challenges that pop up, they have things that frustrate them and annoy them and disappoint them and therefore you don't have this little perfect world that's portrayed in the movies. In actuality, what you're looking for is the complete opposite of a soul mate or the one or the perfect person for you. What you're looking for is someone that helps you create a situation where you can grow and become the best version of you. This means that they challenge you. This means that they hold you accountable. This means that they support you, they encourage you, they do all of these things so that you can become the best version of you and what that is, is they help point out the parts about you that you want to grow and improve and be better.
Therefore, the only way that they are the one, or a soulmate, or anything like that, is if they can assist you in creating that situation. If they don't hold you accountable, if they don't support you and encourage you and kick your butt, then they're not a right partner for you. Therefore you shouldn't be with them. So instead of having, looking for having the goal of looking for a soul mate, the one, the perfect one, the one that's going to complete you, will make you whole, and all this sort of stuff. Look for someone that's going to push your buttons, that's gonna make you confront the hard truths, someone that's gonna make you accountable. When you say you're going to do something, they kick your butt and make sure you do it.
If you say you want to get fit, if you want to say you want to get healthy, if you say you want to learn something, they hold you accountable. They make sure that you become all you can be and if you do that for them as well, that's probably the closest you will get to what they call a soul mate, or the one, or your perfect partner. So release any romantic notions, any beliefs that you have around this highly romanticised version of a partner and make sure that you're trying to find someone who helps you become more than you currently are.
So if they're doing that, they're helping you create that situation because you're contributing to it as well. If they're helping you create that situation, you've found someone who can be a good partner for you. So I hope that clears up about being a soulmate? Because I hear a lot of people use those words, "I'm trying to find the one" or "my soul mate" and it is a load of rubbish and holding onto that belief will do nothing but cause problems and struggle.
So let go of that and find someone who holds you accountable, pushes your buttons, encourages you, supports you and does all of that wonderful stuff instead. Okay, I hope that's helped. I hope that's given you some enlightenment and I hope you've enjoyed it. All right, take it easy and remember, here's to a good life.
You can listen to the Life Back On Track podcast on your favourite platform by visiting our podcast website. Click HERE to check it out.
You can also listen to my radio show “All About Relationships” which has its own podcast on your favourite platform by clicking HERE
Thanks for listening.
Welcome back to the latest episode. In this one, I want to talk to you about something that a lot of people seem to have a belief about and that is that there is a 'soul mate', that there's a, 'the one' or the perfect person for them. I want to set you straight on this. There is no such thing.
If there was such a thing, the odds against it happening for one person, let alone millions is just astronomically huge. So if you think about the odds that someone in the world was your soul mate, let's just pretend someone was your soul mate. If it was a real thing, that person, what would be the odds of them living in the same country as you? There's something like 217 countries. So we're already at one in 217 factor in that that they live in the same state of the same country as you.
Well, let's assume there's ten states in your country that's already observed 2,170 to 1. But, it could actually to be a hell of a lot more because if you've got more than 10 states in every country. So we're already well into the thousands now. Imagine that in that state, they're in the same city as you and not only in the same city as you, they happen to go out on the same night as you to the exact same venue as you to run into you so that you can have this relationship with 'the one' or your 'soul mate'.
The odds are just so astronomically huge that even for one person for that to happen would just be ridiculously unlikely and then make that for millions of people. Absolutely impossible. Absolutely impossible. The problem is that due to rom-coms, romantic movies, a lot of the ways that relationships are portrayed in movies and books and magazines, they're portrayed as being this perfect thing, like you meet someone and suddenly everything's fine.
Well that might be good in the movies, however, it doesn't happen in real life. In real life. People have things that go on. They have challenges that pop up, they have things that frustrate them and annoy them and disappoint them and therefore you don't have this little perfect world that's portrayed in the movies. In actuality, what you're looking for is the complete opposite of a soul mate or the one or the perfect person for you. What you're looking for is someone that helps you create a situation where you can grow and become the best version of you. This means that they challenge you. This means that they hold you accountable. This means that they support you, they encourage you, they do all of these things so that you can become the best version of you and what that is, is they help point out the parts about you that you want to grow and improve and be better.
Therefore, the only way that they are the one, or a soulmate, or anything like that, is if they can assist you in creating that situation. If they don't hold you accountable, if they don't support you and encourage you and kick your butt, then they're not a right partner for you. Therefore you shouldn't be with them. So instead of having, looking for having the goal of looking for a soul mate, the one, the perfect one, the one that's going to complete you, will make you whole, and all this sort of stuff. Look for someone that's going to push your buttons, that's gonna make you confront the hard truths, someone that's gonna make you accountable. When you say you're going to do something, they kick your butt and make sure you do it.
If you say you want to get fit, if you want to say you want to get healthy, if you say you want to learn something, they hold you accountable. They make sure that you become all you can be and if you do that for them as well, that's probably the closest you will get to what they call a soul mate, or the one, or your perfect partner. So release any romantic notions, any beliefs that you have around this highly romanticised version of a partner and make sure that you're trying to find someone who helps you become more than you currently are.
So if they're doing that, they're helping you create that situation because you're contributing to it as well. If they're helping you create that situation, you've found someone who can be a good partner for you. So I hope that clears up about being a soulmate? Because I hear a lot of people use those words, "I'm trying to find the one" or "my soul mate" and it is a load of rubbish and holding onto that belief will do nothing but cause problems and struggle.
So let go of that and find someone who holds you accountable, pushes your buttons, encourages you, supports you and does all of that wonderful stuff instead. Okay, I hope that's helped. I hope that's given you some enlightenment and I hope you've enjoyed it. All right, take it easy and remember, here's to a good life.
You can listen to the Life Back On Track podcast on your favourite platform by visiting our podcast website. Click HERE to check it out.
You can also listen to my radio show “All About Relationships” which has its own podcast on your favourite platform by clicking HERE
Thanks for listening.