You need to know this #3
May 26, 2021
There are things that I take every workshop attendee, every one-on-one client, every course participant through. The reason I do this, is because there are certain things you need to understand before you start to get your life back on track.
This is one of the three that I teach people. Have a listen and see how it can help you.
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Hi, this is Wayne Brown from Life Back On Track.
Welcome back to the third of my, you must know this podcast. Now these are based off rules, guidelines, principles that I take people through that I've realised in my journey, and I hope underpin their journey of getting their life back on track.
So the first one was, you're not broken. The second one was, you're just using shitty tools, which is how most people operate, they do the best they can with the tools they have. This third one is, for me, it's stopped a lot of my internal judgement of myself. So I'm hoping it has the same effect for you.
A lot of us were, we're hesitant to put forward our beliefs, our opinions, our desires, our goals, because of this undercurrent that runs through a lot of our thinking. And that is that there's a right or a wrong answer to things. So if someone has an opinion, contrary to yours, people seem to feel that they can argue it or minimise it or negate it.
If you have an opinion, or a belief or an attitude, or a goal, or want or desire a dream, it's exactly that it's just one that belongs to you. It's not right, it's not wrong. And no one is right or wrong, because everyone has a perception, a way they see things.
When I'm taking people through a workshop or working with them one on one, I let them know that regardless of what you say, in regards to opinions, beliefs, attitudes, goals, wants, dreams, desires, none of it is right or wrong. It is just what applies to you. This also applies to any tools, any knowledge, it is basically. What I feel is, instead of using the labels, right or wrong, or good or bad, it's easier to say, is it effective or ineffective in regards to myself?
In other words, is it leading me to the result that I'm chasing? Or is it moving me away or restricting me from the result that I'm chasing? So if I'm after a better relationship, for example, or more connection with my partner, will this attitude this belief, this tool, this process, will it help me get a better relationship, or cause problems? In other words, is it effective, or is it not effective? Not good or bad, because what works for you, may not work for someone else, or what works for someone else might not work for you.
So I always say to people, even with the information I'm giving it works for me, I find a works for me, it seems to work for a lot of people. I say to people try it, if it works for you keep using it. If it doesn't work, don't use it, it's fine to take off that tool, that bit of clothing that process. It's your prerogative to only use what works for you what gets a result for you. So if you're asking a question of yourself, what is my desire, my goal, my belief, my opinion about this? It's not right or wrong. It's just what applies to you.
So the thing I want to leave you with at the end of this is, every time you read something, or you want to judge someone, don't judge someone because it's only the way you see it. It's not right or wrong. There was a cartoon I saw years ago, and it keeps popping up every now and then it's these two men standing either side of a large number. Obviously, because they're on opposite sides, they see it a different way. So one of the chaps is looking at this number that's on the ground in between them and he's saying "it's a nine" and the bloke and the other side's going "no it's a six".
Now they could both argue and it's the same thing they're arguing over, they just see it different ways. And that's how it is with any tool, process, opinion, belief, etc. It's just the way you see it. So in other words, is it getting you the result or not? You know, everyone's doing the best they can with what they know. And that's what this is about.
There's no right or wrong, it either works for you, or it doesn't. So there's my three little goals, principles, guidelines, whatever you want to call them, that I take people through when they attend one of my workshops, or do a course with me, or coach one on one.
So they're three principles I'd love for you to carry through. Not just your journey of listening to these podcasts, but also your own journey in life, that you're not broken, that you're doing the best you can with the tools you have. If you're getting frustrated with something, look for a better tool, look for a better process, look for a better mindset.
And also, is it getting you the result that you're after? Is it working for you or is it not? Get rid of the labels good, bad, that right or wrong? Because that will hold you back? Because you're too busy labeling it and judging it rather than just looking to see if it's getting you the result.
So anyway, that's my third podcast. I hope you've enjoyed it. We'll catch you on the next one and here's to a good life.
You can also send an email to admin@life-on-track.com or if you prefer, you can send it snail mail to: PO Box 40, Cannington WA 6987, Australia
Welcome back to the third of my, you must know this podcast. Now these are based off rules, guidelines, principles that I take people through that I've realised in my journey, and I hope underpin their journey of getting their life back on track.
So the first one was, you're not broken. The second one was, you're just using shitty tools, which is how most people operate, they do the best they can with the tools they have. This third one is, for me, it's stopped a lot of my internal judgement of myself. So I'm hoping it has the same effect for you.
A lot of us were, we're hesitant to put forward our beliefs, our opinions, our desires, our goals, because of this undercurrent that runs through a lot of our thinking. And that is that there's a right or a wrong answer to things. So if someone has an opinion, contrary to yours, people seem to feel that they can argue it or minimise it or negate it.
If you have an opinion, or a belief or an attitude, or a goal, or want or desire a dream, it's exactly that it's just one that belongs to you. It's not right, it's not wrong. And no one is right or wrong, because everyone has a perception, a way they see things.
When I'm taking people through a workshop or working with them one on one, I let them know that regardless of what you say, in regards to opinions, beliefs, attitudes, goals, wants, dreams, desires, none of it is right or wrong. It is just what applies to you. This also applies to any tools, any knowledge, it is basically. What I feel is, instead of using the labels, right or wrong, or good or bad, it's easier to say, is it effective or ineffective in regards to myself?
In other words, is it leading me to the result that I'm chasing? Or is it moving me away or restricting me from the result that I'm chasing? So if I'm after a better relationship, for example, or more connection with my partner, will this attitude this belief, this tool, this process, will it help me get a better relationship, or cause problems? In other words, is it effective, or is it not effective? Not good or bad, because what works for you, may not work for someone else, or what works for someone else might not work for you.
So I always say to people, even with the information I'm giving it works for me, I find a works for me, it seems to work for a lot of people. I say to people try it, if it works for you keep using it. If it doesn't work, don't use it, it's fine to take off that tool, that bit of clothing that process. It's your prerogative to only use what works for you what gets a result for you. So if you're asking a question of yourself, what is my desire, my goal, my belief, my opinion about this? It's not right or wrong. It's just what applies to you.
So the thing I want to leave you with at the end of this is, every time you read something, or you want to judge someone, don't judge someone because it's only the way you see it. It's not right or wrong. There was a cartoon I saw years ago, and it keeps popping up every now and then it's these two men standing either side of a large number. Obviously, because they're on opposite sides, they see it a different way. So one of the chaps is looking at this number that's on the ground in between them and he's saying "it's a nine" and the bloke and the other side's going "no it's a six".
Now they could both argue and it's the same thing they're arguing over, they just see it different ways. And that's how it is with any tool, process, opinion, belief, etc. It's just the way you see it. So in other words, is it getting you the result or not? You know, everyone's doing the best they can with what they know. And that's what this is about.
There's no right or wrong, it either works for you, or it doesn't. So there's my three little goals, principles, guidelines, whatever you want to call them, that I take people through when they attend one of my workshops, or do a course with me, or coach one on one.
So they're three principles I'd love for you to carry through. Not just your journey of listening to these podcasts, but also your own journey in life, that you're not broken, that you're doing the best you can with the tools you have. If you're getting frustrated with something, look for a better tool, look for a better process, look for a better mindset.
And also, is it getting you the result that you're after? Is it working for you or is it not? Get rid of the labels good, bad, that right or wrong? Because that will hold you back? Because you're too busy labeling it and judging it rather than just looking to see if it's getting you the result.
So anyway, that's my third podcast. I hope you've enjoyed it. We'll catch you on the next one and here's to a good life.
You can also send an email to admin@life-on-track.com or if you prefer, you can send it snail mail to: PO Box 40, Cannington WA 6987, Australia