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Hey guys, how's it going? This is Richard Butler and welcome to this podcast. But hold on, if you're watching this on Youtube, you can I say podcast. What do you mean podcast? Well what I've decided to do is that each week when I record a podcast, I'll actually record on video and I'll stick on the Youtube channel, which you can find in the description below if you're listening to this as a podcast. Oops, there goes my air conditioner. I don't know if you can hear that in the background. Well today I want to talk about present moment mindset and it's something that I experienced this weekend again and I was so conscious of it because you know, a lot has happened over the last couple of months as you all know and we tend to think about the future. We tend to think about the past and women don't enjoy the moment. So let me tell you about my experience. Um, every year we go to visit a friend or visit our friends. Should I say, who rent an apartment by the beach. We always go for a weekend and this weekend, 

Um, we decided we would go early on Friday. We usually go after 8:00 on a Friday and arrived there about 11 just in time for dinner. But we thought we'd go early on Friday and we'd spend the whole weekend there. The first thing that happened was my wife says to me, listen, bars, a football club are going to be playing on sunday, there's the first game of the league, it's the first game of the season. I know nothing about football. Um it's the first game without messy and it's the first game since the Covid and she had been at the last game before co, but he said, I'd love to go. And I was like, I was like, really? And she said, I can get a ticket for me as in for herself. And I was like, okay, And we'll have to leave at 4:00 on Sunday. Now, usually on Sunday we would leave from our friends at about 11 Or maybe 12 or maybe one. I think the last time we were saying we got home at 3:00 AM and it was like crazy. So I was kind of like, really? And she was like, well, okay, I'll see if I can give the tickets, somebody else etcetera, etcetera. So that was that at the end she couldn't give away the ticket and said, do you mind if we do it? And I thought, fuck! So I got to that in a second. Then we wanted to leave early on friday, but we actually had to go up to the hospital because my, my wife wasn't feeling well on friday. I was like jesus, the one day where it could be the perfect weekend. I mean we leave early on a friday and then we come back and everything, there seems to be something going wrong. So there was two reactions that I could react reacted to that the old me would get super pissed off by it and say well this isn't fair, I mean we're going to arrive late on friday, we're going to have to leave early on sunday, it's hardly worth going etcetera. But the new me thought about being in the present moment. So I went up to the hospital with my wife, they did whatever they had to do for and I said I said in the sunshine in the canteen and I did some study that I wanted to do. I it was perfect. I was in the moment, it was a beautiful day. I was really productive what I was listening to was fantastic. 

The learning that I did and then I decided okay well we're actually getting there a little bit earlier than we normally would because I think we were arriving at seven o'clock maybe Instead of our normal 11:00. So that's a plus. And we had a great Friday, we went out, couldn't find a place to eat because the places that everywhere was packed. But we eventually found this hotel and the food was fantastic. So we had a great evening saturday was amazing, we went down to the pool and then we went to the beach and then we are what do we do actually? That's good to know. We went for dinner then and suddenly we went down to the pool for about an hour and we had a nice lunch and then we came home and I enjoyed every minute of it. So rather than thinking like I used to think Ah there's only another two hours left before we have to go home and damn it, we have to go home at 4:00 and all this. We got home and half six, we had something to eat. My wife went off to the football. Sounds crazy. It should be me going to the football, but I'm not that much into the football and you know, whatever for me, football or whatever. And then I did more so the, and I got the study that I wanted, I relaxed, I had a nice coffee, did my study, my wife came back, we had a nice pizza for dinner and then we watched two episodes of one of the programs that we're watching. Netflix and it was a perfect day. We went to bed early. Uh we had a good night's sleep and monday was perfect because normally what happens is on the monday when we return because we return at three o'clock in the morning, we're super tight on the monday. 

And it starts off badly. So looking back at it, I thought, well, rather than the way I used to be of being negative, I'm thinking, wow, hardly worth going for the weekend because we're leaving on sunday so early and I want to spend the whole day on sunday there. I thought, no, let's enjoy the time. Let's, my wife wants to go to the match, let's do it. And it was, as I said, an amazing weekend. I feel completely refreshed, ready to go etcetera. So what's the moral of the story here? Well, the moral of the story here is that don't wish your life away, think about what might happen in the future. Don't the negative thing about what happened in the past, enjoy what you have right now. So no matter where you are in life, enjoy today, enjoy your work day because you're getting to talk to your friends in work or you're enjoying walking home from work or you're enjoying a nice lunch because you go out and treat yourself to a nice coffee or a nice sandwich, whatever it may be. But stop living in the future. Think about what could happen or living in the past thing about what happened because it serves you no purpose. You know, we don't know how long we have left. Mm you know, when the final curtain will be called on our, on our life and project yourself into the future just for a second and think, well what is it that you would like to remember if you just had a couple of days left to live because this has struck home so many times for me recently. Um and two incidents I remember like two weeks ago, a guy I know on facebook who I actually met, so I can say that I do know him And passed away at 48 had a heart attack, was rushed to hospital, had another fatal heart attack in hospital, bam gone Now the guy lived a pretty full life I think. And uh you know, he enjoyed life and he enjoyed the time with his wife from the time of his kids etcetera. And the danger that we always have is that we say I'm going to save money So that when I retire at 65 at 67 I'll be able to live like that. But what can happen is what if you don't reach 65, What if you reach 65 and unfortunately you can't enjoy life. Another incident of a guy who was on a friday, he was finishing up work, he was doing some maintenance in building and he had an accident and it turned out to be a fatal accident. He lost oxygen was rushed off to the hospital and basically was brain dead. And they had to say, we're sorry, we have to switch off the life support because there's nothing we can do for your husband. And this guy was 40. Now imagine you had your plans for the holidays. Now, imagine if you had fought with your husband or your wife that day and the last memory that you have is a negative memory. I mean don't sweat the small stuff, don't worry about the small things because imagine if the last thing that you remember was fuck, I shouldn't have fought with my with my partner because look what happened, think about it for a second. I mean they could have had plans and they could have said, well this year we're not going to do anything special because we need to save money because we need to, whatever may be and they didn't get to spend that money, spend that time, live those experiences now. 

That's not to say that you should be reckless because you shouldn't be, you should obviously save your money, but don't always think I'll keep it for, Well I'm 65. I mean, I'm hoping here's hoping within the next year that I'm gonna buy a camper van. Even if I only have it for a year or two years, if I don't like it. My dream is to have experienced a little bit of the nomad life in a Volkswagen camper van. Yeah, maybe I'm a hippie at heart. I don't know. But with the hair, you couldn't tell them. I hope you move with the beard a little bit, but the idea is that I could say, well I'll wait until I'm 65, but actually I'm not going to get a golden handshake because I'm working for myself. So um I'm not going to get a big retirement package. So all I have is the right now. So that's where I'm thinking, Well, you know what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go, I'm gonna hopefully by a nice secondhand camper van within a year. I'm not experienced that. And if I like it, I like it. If I don't sell it. No, no, no, major worries. I'm not going to be investing 80, cameras. No, I want to buy a little second hand one and go off and maybe you do Facebook lives from the beach from the mountains. But the idea is enjoy what you have now and don't be too much thinking about the future or the past. All right, I'm going to stop there because you know, time is precious and I want you to enjoy today. So let me know in the comments what you think. If you're watching this on facebook on Youtube and linkedin, let me know as well. I mentioned to know your thoughts about living in the present moment and you know, go to Richard Butler dot Coach signed up for my newsletter because I've got some exciting news coming up in september. I'm doing a little bit of study. I'm changing directions a little bit again, but still on the same path that I want to be on and I want you to join me. I want to be able to help you live a better life. That is my intention for the next year to help you live a better life and to achieve what you want to achieve if you're interested, give this video a like sign up for the newsletter and I'll talk to you very soon. 

A guy I know on facebook who I actually met so I can say that I do know him And passed away at 48 had a heart attack was rushed to hospital, had another fatal heart attack in hospital bam gone. Now the guy lived a pretty full life I think. And uh you know, he enjoyed life and he enjoyed the time with his wife from the time of his kids etcetera. And the danger that we always have is that we say I'm going to save money So that when I retire at 65 at 67 I'll be able to live like that. But what can happen is what if you don't reach 65, What if you reach 65 and unfortunately you can't enjoy life. Another incident of a guy who was on a friday, he was finishing up work, he was doing some maintenance in building and he had an accident and it turned out to be a fatal accident. He lost oxygen was rushed off to the hospital and basically was brain dead and they had to say, we're sorry we have to switch off the life support because there's nothing we can do for your husband And this guy was 40. Now imagine you had your plans for the holidays now. Imagine if you had fought with your husband or your wife that day and the last memory that you have is a negative memory. I mean, don't sweat the small stuff, don't worry about the small things because imagine if the last thing that you remember was fuck, I shouldn't have fought with my with my partner because look what happened, think about it for a second. I mean they could have had plans and they could have said, well this year we're not going to do anything special because we need to save money because we need to, whatever may be and they didn't get to spend that money, spend that time, live those experiences. Now, that's not to say that you should be reckless because you shouldn't be, you should obviously save your money, but don't always think I'll keep it for, Well, I'm 65, I mean, I'm hoping here's hoping within the next year that I'm gonna buy a camper van, even if I only have it for a year or two years if I don't like it. 

My dream is to have experienced a little bit of the nomad life in a Volkswagen camper van. Yeah, maybe I'm a hippie at heart, I don't know, but with the hair, you couldn't tell them. I hope you move with the beard a little bit. But the idea is that I could say, well I'll wait until I'm 65, but actually I'm not going to get a golden handshake because I'm working for myself. So, um, I'm not going to get a big retirement package. So all I have is the right now. So that's where I'm thinking, well, you know what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go, I'm gonna hopefully by a nice secondhand camper van within a year. I'm not experienced that. And if I like it, I like it. If I don't sell it. No, no, no major worries. I'm not going to be investing 80, cameras. No, I want to buy a little second hand one and go off and maybe you do Facebook lives from the beach from the mountains. But the idea is enjoy what you have now and don't be too much thinking about the future or the past. All right, I'm going to stop there because you know, time is precious and I want you to enjoy today. So let me know in the comments what you think. If you're watching this on facebook on Youtube and linkedin, let me know as well. I mentioned to know your thoughts about living in the present moment and you know, go to Richard Butler dot Coach signed up for my newsletter because I've got some exciting news coming up in september. I'm doing a little bit of study. I'm changing directions a little bit again, but still on the same path that I want to be on and I want you to join me. I want to be able to help you live a better life. That is my intention for the next year to help you live a better life and to achieve what you want to achieve. If you're interested, give this video a like, sign up for the newsletter and I'll talk to you very soon. If you enjoyed this podcast, make sure that you subscribe and check out my website. Richard Butler dot Coach, See you next time.