Episode Transcript

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Now, today we are talking about a phrase that is walking the walk on, talking the talk or sometimes it's talking the talk and walking the walk on. This is something that is known more technically as congruence e doing what you say you do now, why is this important? 

But I know if you ever remember back in the day, you would go to the doctor on the doctor would be sitting there telling you that you had to be more healthy and you be smoking a pipe. I certainly remember that or you go to the doctor and they say, Look, you know, you gotta lose weight for your health, and then you look at the doctor and the doctor themselves need to drop a few stone are kilos on you kind of say, 

Well, you're telling me one thing, but you're doing something not the same as what you're telling me. So this means that they are not congruent now. Being congruent is so important, because if you say something, you also want to do it again. I remember back, if anybody knows their Irish history, they may know off a prime minister or a T shock who was called Charlie Hockey Andi in the late eighties. I believe it was nineties. 

I remember my dad telling me about Charlie Haughey, and Charlie had said, You know, we're going through very bad times at the moment we have to tighten our belts on. He was flying off to Paris, having expensive meals on getting tailored suits and shirts. So this was definitely not talking the talk and walking the walk. Andi, the reason why you have to be congruent is credibility. Because if I hear somebody saying, you know, um, you shouldn't you shouldn't do this. You should always make sure that you eat a very balanced diet. 


Then you see them out on their stuffing themselves with hamburgers and french fries and all those lovely things that are always bad for us. Well, then you'd say, Well, hold on a second. Why? You tell me to do one thing and you're doing the other? No. No matter what you are doing in life, if you're a business person, if you are apparent, whatever it may be, you have to talk the talk and walk the walk. Now let's talk about parents. Well, you know what parents? Sometimes they say to their kids, Get off the mobile. You can't be on the mobile all the time on what are they doing? Well, they're looking at their mobile. So then, you know that says to the kid, Well, why am I not like to do in your your like to do it again? It's not congruent, so it's essential to build authority on also to be seen in the best on most favorable light that you do talk the talk. But more importantly, that you walk the walk. So think about your own situation. Are you saying things to people but doing something different? 


Are you telling people that they should do X? But you're not following your own advice? Maybe you're a coach. Maybe you're a teacher. Maybe you're a business professional. ons. You are giving advice that you are not following. So, for example, as a coach, you may be saying, 

You know, you have to make sure that you're better in your relationships. You may need to make sure that you're actually, uh, kinder with your partner, etcetera. But then you get home and your snappy with your partner now not even knowing it. But subconsciously, your body may know this, and you may feel out of sorts. 

And in your mind you may be thinking, Well, why aren't things going? Well for me? You're not walking the walk. You're talking the talk, but you're not walking the walk. So I want you to reflect this week and think, you know, are you being, ah, 100% congruent, others times where maybe we can't be congruent? 

Yeah, we slipped and we get annoyed with somebody or we slip and we have that burger or extra slice of cake, and that's okay. But if you are saying something to people onto your clients and to your kids and to your co workers, etcetera, you need to make sure that you are taking your own advice. 


So, as I said for this week. I want to reflect on your life and think about what you are saying on what you are doing on if they match. Okay, guys, that's it. I'm over and out for this week and make sure you subscribe. Join my mailing list at richard butler dot coach on. I'll see you next week. Have a wonderful week. E. Hope you enjoy this week's podcast. Check out Richard Butler dot coach and make sure that you subscribe.