Dating Kinky
Unpopular Opinion: I don't believe in unconditional love.
May 9, 2022
I don't want to know that I made you feel love for me yesterday or 13 days ago, or on your birthday last year, but that you love me now, today.

Furthermore, I loathe the idea. 

It repulses me. 

To me, it is the antithesis of what love is and should be, at least in a romantic relationship between adults. 

Now, I'm not saying you can't love unconditionally. Not at all. I hope you will always do what works for you. 

You probably eat radishes, too. 

Ewww. Gross. 

I think unconditional love is impossible. And it's unhealthy. It is for me. 

(Again, if it works for you, I'm not here to yuck your yum.) 

I believe love SHOULD be earned. Must be given because I am worth it. Not simply because I exist. 

The best love to me is love that comes from seeing ME. Seeing me exactly as I am. All of the fun-sexy-amazing things and the flaws, and weighing all of that against your personal standards of worth and desires and finding out that I fit well and truly. 

And the better I fit, the more love. 

And I give the same in return. 

Offering it unconditionally? That cheapens it for me. 

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