Teaching Others How to Treat You
November 3, 2022
Have you ever thought about how your actions show others how to treat you? In this episode, David Dubé explains exactly how our actions tell the world so much about us and what you need to know and do about it.
Our actions tell the world how we like to be treated.
When observed you can tell a lot about someone by how they act and interact with others and their environment. What you're witnessing is their value system being displayed. What we value and devalue is always being displayed, from the smoker discarding his cigarette on the ground to the grandmother pocketing tip money left for the server.
Our values dictate much of how we lead our lives yet most of us don't realize their significance until they're broken.
That white lie you told that snowballed into a bigger lie that you now cannot change and constantly regret.
It's that cheap old necklace you stole from the girl down the street that you later found out was a gift from her now-deceased grandmother.
The words your friend told you to say to the kid in the locker room that you wished you'd never said.
It's those little things that you do that you later regret, those are the signs that you're breaking your values.
Don't mistake what's written above as little, they're big in a world of little things. Some value money over kindness, others value tidy and clean over disorganized and messy, with many more in between.
You must define your values and write them down. By putting your values onto paper you enable yourself to better live by them and also you'll find that you're less likely to defy your own values in having done so.
As you live and grow, however, you'll notice when someone crosses a value you hadn't thought of. When such an event takes place do not hesitate in taking action to resolve it so it does not occur again.
There's a second part to this as well, and that's knowing your value. Know what benefits you keep and bring into any and all relationships and make a list of them. Ask friends and family what they think are your strengths and write them down.
Are you good at cooking? Do you have a knack for wine tasting? Can you program an app? You're good at building or repairing things? Are you double-jointed? Maybe you sing opera or can name all the arachnids by their scientific names... these are the things you bring with you into any and all relationships.
Know your value, all your quirks, knowledge base, experiences, and wisdom is all valuable and deserve to be known if not also shared.
By creating a list you then have an inventory of confidence. You no longer have to wonder if you're good enough, what does he or she think of me?
You are enough, have enough, and you are worthy.
If you'd like a relationship consult with David Dubé and/or would like to join our private community go to https://relationships-first.com
To find out more and work with David Dubé go to https://daviddube.com
When observed you can tell a lot about someone by how they act and interact with others and their environment. What you're witnessing is their value system being displayed. What we value and devalue is always being displayed, from the smoker discarding his cigarette on the ground to the grandmother pocketing tip money left for the server.
Our values dictate much of how we lead our lives yet most of us don't realize their significance until they're broken.
That white lie you told that snowballed into a bigger lie that you now cannot change and constantly regret.
It's that cheap old necklace you stole from the girl down the street that you later found out was a gift from her now-deceased grandmother.
The words your friend told you to say to the kid in the locker room that you wished you'd never said.
It's those little things that you do that you later regret, those are the signs that you're breaking your values.
Don't mistake what's written above as little, they're big in a world of little things. Some value money over kindness, others value tidy and clean over disorganized and messy, with many more in between.
You must define your values and write them down. By putting your values onto paper you enable yourself to better live by them and also you'll find that you're less likely to defy your own values in having done so.
As you live and grow, however, you'll notice when someone crosses a value you hadn't thought of. When such an event takes place do not hesitate in taking action to resolve it so it does not occur again.
There's a second part to this as well, and that's knowing your value. Know what benefits you keep and bring into any and all relationships and make a list of them. Ask friends and family what they think are your strengths and write them down.
Are you good at cooking? Do you have a knack for wine tasting? Can you program an app? You're good at building or repairing things? Are you double-jointed? Maybe you sing opera or can name all the arachnids by their scientific names... these are the things you bring with you into any and all relationships.
Know your value, all your quirks, knowledge base, experiences, and wisdom is all valuable and deserve to be known if not also shared.
By creating a list you then have an inventory of confidence. You no longer have to wonder if you're good enough, what does he or she think of me?
You are enough, have enough, and you are worthy.
If you'd like a relationship consult with David Dubé and/or would like to join our private community go to https://relationships-first.com
To find out more and work with David Dubé go to https://daviddube.com