What are you trying to get out of this conversation?
June 13, 2022
What you want in this moment from this conversation will make a HUGE difference in how and what you communicate.
There are your priorities in this conversation.
Right now.
What are you trying to get out of this conversation?
Because we may want to grow old together, because we love each other very much, but if one of us wants to solve this major problem right now, and the other wants to go to sleep, our communication is likely to fail.
If one of us wants to be open and vulnerable, and the other wants to get it over with so they can watch 'The Bachelorette,' our communication is likely to fail.
So, what might we want right now, from the conversation we are about to have (or ARE having)?
- I want to make clear my thoughts and feel understood.
- I want to apologize.
- I want to ask questions and understand my partner.
- I want to feel closer to my partner.
- I want to make my partner happy.
- I want to work together to find a potential solution.
Versus:
- I want to feel right.
- I want to punish my partner.
- I want to make my partner feel guilty.
- I want to work out my frustration.
- I want to feel vindicated.
- I want to get my way.
Find the full transcript for this episode here.https://datingkinky.com/blog/communication/what-are-you-trying-to-get-out-of-this-conversation/
Right now.
What are you trying to get out of this conversation?
Because we may want to grow old together, because we love each other very much, but if one of us wants to solve this major problem right now, and the other wants to go to sleep, our communication is likely to fail.
If one of us wants to be open and vulnerable, and the other wants to get it over with so they can watch 'The Bachelorette,' our communication is likely to fail.
So, what might we want right now, from the conversation we are about to have (or ARE having)?
- I want to make clear my thoughts and feel understood.
- I want to apologize.
- I want to ask questions and understand my partner.
- I want to feel closer to my partner.
- I want to make my partner happy.
- I want to work together to find a potential solution.
Versus:
- I want to feel right.
- I want to punish my partner.
- I want to make my partner feel guilty.
- I want to work out my frustration.
- I want to feel vindicated.
- I want to get my way.
Find the full transcript for this episode here.https://datingkinky.com/blog/communication/what-are-you-trying-to-get-out-of-this-conversation/