Our lives are not consolation prizes with our fantasies being the lottery ticket we missed out on, which is not to say we shouldn’t examine “be here now.” We should. We should examine it precisely because it seems to be so important to us, not just individually but culturally. The question is, Can we examine this fantasy without regret? Because a fantasy is not attainable, it is more like a finger indicating a direction of what we would like, which, so often, is just to be happy, to know we are loved, to realize we have enough for everyone. When we can understand what our fantasies are saying to us we can begin to think about what it is we are willing to risk. When I know what I really want, then I know what I am called to do in life.