Living with the strong urge to avoid loving and calm the community, I realized there was more work to do to uncover this default. As I continue my work on self awareness, I'm discovering in Bessel van der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score," alarming insights. Drawn towards understanding conflict, I also discovered this story that created a peace within me to understand the way things could be; the Village Of Calm. There's a connection to creating the awareness in our body and mind to how we are being and its effect on others. We have to be the first to put it forward in order to receive it. When it doesn't come back, then it’s up to us to create a calm place for others. When it does, it's a beautiful connection.