Stoic Coffee Break
161 - Better Than You?
February 18, 2019
Better than you? We are always comparing ourselves to others. It is the ego’s way of feeling like the self-image that is is a good one. We want to feel like we are “doing it right”. Often this means that we compare ourselves with others, making sure that we appear or at least feel like we are “better” than they are. But what does that really mean? Why are we better? Who is the judge of what is better? Can we just look at someone else and see that they are the same just that they’ve made different choices? In today's episode, we're going to talk a bit about comparison, how it keeps us from compassion, and a simple strategy to move past it.

Better than you?

We are always comparing ourselves to others. It is the ego’s way of feeling like the self-image that is is a good one. We want to feel like we are “doing it right”. Often this means that we compare ourselves with others, making sure that we appear or at least feel like we are “better” than they are. But what does that really mean? Why are we better? Who is the judge of what is better? Can we just look at someone else and see that they are the same just that they’ve made different choices?

Anthony De Mello in the book Awareness, said:

> “Someone once had a terribly beautiful thing to say about Jesus. This
> person wasn’t even Christian. He said, “The lovely thing about Jesus
> was that he was so at home with sinners, because he understood that he
> wasn’t one bit better than they were.” We differ from others—from
> criminals, for example—only in what we do or don’t do, not in what we
> are. The only difference between Jesus and those others was that he
> was awake and they weren’t.”

In today's episode, we're going to talk a bit about comparison, how it keeps us from compassion, and a simple strategy to move past it.

You can read more about these ideas in the fantastic book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality, by Anthony De Mello.