Your Life By Design
When Life Throws You Lemons
May 2, 2019
What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in? Is it possible to take inspired and motivated action to survive your present situation and live the life you always dreamed of? Things do get even more complicated when you become an adult especially when the society sees emotion as a sign of weakness. Go easy with your mental and emotional health as we dive into the ways to eradicate negative thoughts and replace it with positivity. Learn about self-hypnosis and how finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental state. At the end of the day, it all comes down to how you feel about yourself.
What would you do if you are trapped in an environment that you do not want to be in?  What if you are sick and tired of your job?  What can you do?  Is it possible to take inspired and motivated action to survive your present situation and live the life you always dreamed of?
It will not be easy though.  You will have to come out of your comfort zones to discover potentials and opportunities waiting for you.  You have to conquer your fear and take calculated risks. You have to stay focused and persevere despite the difficulties you will encounter.
Success does not come easy.  It takes heart, passion and time. Experience is also a factor. The learning you get on your journey becomes your foundation. 
You have to work harder, dig deeper, and sacrifice more to attain your ambitions. But no, you do not have to hate the world and feel bad when you encounter difficult situations.  Just remember the Law of Attraction. Whatever you focus on you attract.
Play to your mental and emotional strengths. Not everyone believes this but you only discover your true emotional and mental strengths when the chips are down.
Emotions dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. Society often sees emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects instead. 
No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through to you.
Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self- improvement. What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy? 
Neurologically one negative feeling needs between three to five positive feelings to neutralise it. People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives. There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.
For example, when you were a child, if your pet dog dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another dog but the sorrow is still there. 
Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander. On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables. 
All this because that one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you. In this moment you will realise finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental state.
That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally immerse yourself in it. Let us say you have a problem on your mind and it just would not go away. Go bowling. Do not know how? Just give it a shot. 
Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.
A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is allow yourself to get completely immersed in this new activity. You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.
When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. Do not do it. The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a long term solution to your life's problems. It serves only as a form of therapy. 
You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can begin to be resolved. This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can improve your emotional and mental health. Take the time to replenish yourself daily.
You can use self-hypnosis to enter your safe place. Self hypnosis is a great tool for goal setting and self modulation. Most people are surprised at how easy it is to learn self-hypnosis. And self-hypnosis, in turn, makes a lot of things much easier. 
Self hypnosis is usually thought of as a person listening to an audio tape, mp3, or other mass-produced media, intended to induce a willingness to absorb suggestions centred around a specific topic such as weight loss, stop smoking, etc. 
Unfortunately, this kind of hypnosis is generally prepared by someone who has never met the person being hypnotised, often presenting unwanted, even unpleasant imagery and suggestions.
For example, if you sunburn easily, that last thing you want to hear about is a slow walk on a sunny beach. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis simply means that you listen to it by yourself. How do you design a great hypnotic script?
A great self- hypnotic script would necessarily be designed and created by the very person who will ultimately use and benefit from it. 
Unlike the mass-produced hypnotic tapes, this hypnotic script is made for the exact purpose you wish, including the precise words and phrases that mean the most to you.
So true self hypnosis is thus crafted by the person to suit his or her own needs. The benefits derived could only be accomplished with such a personal, one-of-a-kind hypnosis. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis really does mean that you hypnotise yourself! 
Below is a short view of the self hypnotic process. Though lots of variations of this method have been used, these are the basic steps you have to go through in order to hypnotise yourself to accomplish self improvement.
1. Position your goals from the most important goal to the less important. If possible, your goals should be measurable. 
2. For each goal, you should formulate fitting suggestions which means you have to convert your goals into specific instructions to your subconscious mind on how to achieve each goal. 
3. Relaxation. Use the first minutes of your self hypnotic session to get as relaxed as possible. 
4. Start your hypnotic initiation phase by saying and repeating out loud the hypnotic words you have chosen, thinking of these words or listening to a hypnotic tape or CD customised for your hypnotic and goal fulfilment needs. 
5. Apply the hypnotic suggestions you have made for reaching the specific goal you work with, say them out loud, think them or use a tailored hypnotic tape or CD. 
Before you start up your self hypnotic exercises you should make a time schedule for it. Do your hypnotic sessions every day, five minutes a day is enough. Repeat your suggestions as often as possible during the day. Keep a diary so that you can keep track of your progress. 

Some steps to think about on your journey towards your designed life. 
1. Learn to be thankful for your current situation. See all the positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Be thankful for your boss, your co-workers, your family, your friends, and even strangers that you meet on the streets. Think of what they are teaching you. 
It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong will power. Maintain your perspective so that you can keep moving on to your dreams.
2. Balance is the key. Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time.  

While you are slowly starting on the long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible.  Do not hurry up too much that you totally forget how to enjoy life. Appreciate the beautiful things you will encounter on the journey.
One day, you will finally attain what you have always longed for.  But when that day comes, do not look down on those who belittled you. Forgive and forget.
3. Stay humble. Do not criticise others when you see that you are becoming more successful than they are. Try to help them.  Inject your positive aura into their personalities.  When you give, you will yield back equal or greater rewards.
4. Are you ready to begin the journey?  Start it with the courage and desire to improve your life. Survive and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and positive thinking.  Finish it with a resounding bang of accomplishment and with the desire to help others succeed as well.
Remember you are not alone
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On this podcast I’m going to help you design a life that works. So you are able to say yes to the things that matter and eliminate everything else that slows you down. The more clear you can be about how to organize your daily life to support your bigger vision, the more you’ll step into your true potential, stay on track and accomplish all that you want and deserve. Are you ready to make that happen? 

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