In this episode, I talk about why conflict causes us so much stress and a framework to reflect on a situation to gain awareness. I explain the connection between thought, feeling and behaviour and how when we become aware of what negative rumination and emotions are costing us, it opens the door for us to become serious about change. Healing during conflict is inherently difficult due to the fact that we tend to slip into emotional reactions and negative thinking patterns. When you decide that you are serious about feeling better, than using a framework like I discuss in the podcast can be a helpful scaffold to at least help things to slightly improve which then makes longer-term and more effective healing possible.