Have you ever been given advice but thought that won't work for me?
In this session, John talks about why he is not sorry for doing things his own way. He learned from experience that business advice can be great but if it goes against your personality or beliefs, you don't have to take it. Instead, he encourages people to embraces who they are and the outcomes will speak for themselves.
About the Guest:John
is a proud member of the armed forces. Moving his expertise as a human behavior specialist from the Navy into corporate America. He is a master facilitator focused on team-building and process improvement. He focuses on growing and molding the individual contributor. Learn more HERE.
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[00:00:01] spk_0: welcome to unapologetically bold. I'm not sorry for If you are a person that is tired of apologizing for being you, you know the human part of you that sometimes feels like it has to be different at home versus work versus play, Theo. Human side that just wants to be hot, humble, open and transparent about your wants, desires and uniqueness. If you answered yes, this podcast is for you. Join me, Emily Elrod as I dive into conversations with Amazing Guest about what they were not sorry for And creative and loving ways. Let's get started. I'm blessed today to have John with me. Thank you so much for joining me, John.
[00:00:43] spk_1: Great to be here. Thank you.
[00:00:45] spk_0: You're such an awesome human. And I'm so excited for the audience to get to learn from you, especially what you're not sorry for. But before we get into that, I do want to ask everybody to do. That thing is called, like, subscribe and share as we continue to bring positivity and some information that is usually not talked about to your news feed. So with that, let's get into it. John, Tell us about yourself.
[00:01:12] spk_1: So I just got out of the Navy about five plus months ago or so was in for 11 years. Born and raised in Virginia Beach Hollow before that military family all over the place. Um, I have a three year old daughter, German Shepherd, who you didn't get to see earlier when we were backstage, but hey, busted in the room on, uh, I facilitate eso off sites, retreats, team building, strategic planning sessions. Kind of anything that gets a group of people together to solve something or communicate and collaborate more effectively. I mean, that's as literally my occupation did it for the Navy for the last four years, which is Ah, little, very much untraditional for being a surface warfare officer. So ship driver, prior to facilitation, you know, fell into it and then doing that. Now,
[00:02:07] spk_0: that's awesome. And currently, right now you're a in a storm as well. So we're gonna give the preface if this goes off, it's only because his power went all Yeah,
[00:02:20] spk_1: it might. It has nothing to do with you whatsoever.
[00:02:24] spk_0: And let's get into it. What are you not sorry for?
[00:02:31] spk_1: I am not sorry for not taking people's advice. I you know, not all the time, But I always felt like this guilt. And, you know, you need to read this or you need to do that. And you you should absolutely go work for this, you know, type of person and do this type of thing. And I would put those things on my like to do list. And I guess I mean, within the last year or so, just kind of really came out of that and realized that, um, everything like that is personality driven, and it's it's hard to ask somebody for directions to a place they've never been before. So me taking advice from somebody who's never been where I feel like I wanna go is I feel like I'm gonna get lost based on their directions instead of learning on my own as I go.
[00:03:23] spk_0: And I love that. The point to that I hear in because I know you is that you're still what we call hot human, which is humble, open and transparent. And it's not for the fact that you don't want people's advice, but it z the part of getting thio learn it your own way, but also using drivers so What would you say are like driving forces that make you decide, like, Hey, I might need to do that or might not like I might take your advice. I met now, not
[00:03:51] spk_1: Yeah, well, I think everything comes through of land, so there's pieces of advice that you did that are genuinely good, that I might pass on to someone else. That's in more of a cookie cutter roll type of thing. But I feel like just like anything else, whether it's politics or religion or whatever it is like, you can pick the things that you want to dive into, and you can stay away from the things that you don't. And I think advice is no different, so they might have a couple of good points here and there. You could take it with a grain of salt on, then kind of move out with it. My driver to me is, if I'm listening to it and I can see myself rolling it from one day to the next honor to do us, I'm like, Okay, that advice is not for me. I'm not doing it for myself. I'm doing it for them, and I should probably not, you know, put too much effort into that. In my, in my opinion,
[00:04:46] spk_0: what got you to hear?
[00:04:48] spk_1: Well, a Siris of advice that I either took or didn't take, I think accident to the osteo, right place, Right time. Or you could say wrong place. Right time. Whatever it is, I just fell into this facilitation thing s So I was I went into a room that I was supposed to be the note taker for this. How it all pretty much started. Um, was supposed to be the note taker. I was the most junior person in the room. There were 10 Captain, So 06 level, maybe captains. And a couple of them didn't like me. And they were like the chemo to me, and they were like, John, Uh, no talk. You know, they know I'm talking talkative guy, and they're like, no talking like, Hey, this is you know, we're gonna follow this agenda. We're here for two hours and, you know, take notes. And then there are You know, more people don't like me that didn't and I'm sitting there. And after the first hour on the agenda, we've got, like, these 45 items that were supposed to hit or they are and we're at our one and still not even remotely close. Thio Topic one and I kind of sweat. Uh huh. And one of them was like, what it was like, This is terrible there. Like, excuse me, I was like,
[00:06:06] spk_0: This is