People often ask me if they can play with or date my partner. 

Which is nice. 

And I appreciate the connection and the consideration. 

However, I always have the same answer (about him or any other partner/connection of mine):

> They are an adult. They are the ones who decide who they see, why they see them, how they see them, and when. If they have agreements with me or prior engagements, they know what they are, and it is up to them to maintain those agreements and tell you, or simply maintain their own boundaries. I love them and I trust them to do so. 

I personally don't see any reason to insert myself into someone else's relationship with my partner(s). And I don't want to become a friend to someone because they feel a sense of obligation or guilt for desiring my partner. 

Frankly, I don't have time for that. There are plenty of people who are friendly with me who don't even know my partner (yet or well), and vice versa. And that's OK. My friends want ME in their life.

Find the transcript for this episode here. https://datingkinky.com/blog/polyamory/i-dont-know-can-you-date-my-partner/